It's Fun Telling Your Friends You're A Nudist

It’s fun to tell friends that you are a nudist when you tell them in a way that elicits a positive or ho-hum response. How do you do that? Just mention something about your nude activities as an incidental part of answering a question they asked. You can even lead the conversation in a direction that will naturally produce an appropriate question. Talking about hobbies, things you enjoy doing, or what you did last weekend are good lead-ins. I especially like to mention something about playing pétanque because most people have never heard of it, and will ask more questions you can answer with more information about nude recreation.
 
Why does this technique almost always work so well? Before we analyze that, let’s first understand why the seemingly intuitive way of telling people often doesn’t work very well. 
First, nudists fear their friends will disapprove of nude recreation because they believe people typically associate nudity with bathing or sex, and think any other form of sex is immoral. Once nudists decide to tell friends, they get the friend alone and very solemnly and seriously reveal that they are nudists. They may ask the friend not to tell anyone else. These actions convey a sense of guilt and shame that the friend recognizes and responds to negatively. The nudist is left in a defensive position of trying to justify something he knows is good but his friend believes must be bad.
 
Second, when one party makes a statement, the other is expected to immediately respond to it. When an unfamiliar subject surprises someone, the response is likely to be an unreasoned “knee-jerk” reaction. Most people are unfamiliar with nude recreation and have negative ideas about nudity. When surprised with it, they are likely to respond negatively. The nudist is then left to defend their position.
 
Third, nudists tend to use the most difficult form of communication (push communication), which is trying to change someone’s belief or action. The person automatically suspects an ulterior motive and tends to doubt everything that is said. 
 
So, why does the above technique usually work so well? First, when the sharing of information is clearly voluntary, casual, and nonchalant, the nudist is clearly comfortable sharing it. There is no way the listener can suspect any guilt or shame. 
Also, the listener is inclined to respond to the nudist’s main subject, and will have time to think about the nudist part before responding to it. After some thought, the listener is likely to realize that the nudist is still the same good person he or she was before their nudist interest was revealed.
 
Lastly, communication is in the most desirable mode (information pull), where the nudist is considered an expert and the listener is curious to learn more. The nudist’s information is accepted without question.
 
So remember, when telling someone you are a nudist:
• Do it in a casual nonchalant manner
• Make the nudity a minor part of a more major subject
• Keep the conversation in an “information pull” mode
These techniques obviously work best with people who are open-minded and receptive to new ideas. Advice for more complex situations is available on the “Sharing Your Naturism” tab on the AANR home page (www.aanr.com).
 
You’ll find it’s fun talking freely about your nudist activities with your non-nudist friends. Everyone you tell is one more member of society who is accepting of nude recreation and that makes the world a slightly better place for nudists. As an added bonus, everyone who overhears your conversations is also likely to become a friend of nude recreation. So go ahead and have fun talking about nude recreation with your non-nudist friends.

Taken from the AANR Monthly Bulletin, "Across the Board" brings information and thoughts from the Governing Board of AANR to you. The Board values your membership and wants to make sure that it is doing what is right for the members and clubs. The first step is good two-way communication.